Hello Friends,
Sometimes I see so many people having lots for problems in life, yet they are very relaxed & enthusiastic… while some are having burden & stress even if they have very little problem to deal with! I started to figure out that what makes the first kind of people drive so relaxed & stress-free life? I found that it’s all CONFIDENCE that make us feel free & successful. It can be confidence on life, relatives, beloved ones, but it is too tough to keep it intact while dealing with huge troubles in life, here are some points that may help you for a lifetime…
Confidence is a fuel for the journey between WHAT I AM & WHAT I WANNA BE!
Confidence is about having self-belief and can be easily learnt. It is a state of mind. Once learnt, it opens up so many new possibilities. Increased confidence can enable all of us to do what we have always wanted to do but have been too scared to do. Once fear is replaced with confidence it becomes easy to:
• Speak in public
• Ask for a promotion or raise
• Recover from an illness or past traumas
• Find your ideal partner
• Make any business successful
• Start doing what you really want
Lack of confidence includes the small voice in our heads that says “no, I cannot”. Do you know the one I mean? So what are some of the ways to feeling and being more confident? Here are our tried and tested 10 keys on how to feel and be more confident:
1. Celebrate the victories – big and small
Celebrate Every Small Happiness
Identify all the events you are proud of and even achievements that now may seem common, part of a daily routine. For example, the first time I learnt to brush my teeth or the first time I learnt to walk. There may be more recent examples, for instance asking someone out on a date, being honest with myself, opening a door for someone else or perhaps being there for someone in their moment of need. Examples of victories include: # Passing an exam # Speaking the truth # Completing a goal # Having the courage to say goodbye to a relationship. Sometimes we forget how far we have come and all that we have achieved. Remember all that you have achieved so far, no matter how big or small. What are some of the victories you need to celebrate now?
2. Write down your 100 amazing qualities and read them
Write down all the 100 qualities you love about yourself and then the 100 qualities others love about you. Keep these qualities close by so that you can read them often. If you find you cannot find 100, start writing down all the amazing things you can do. There will be many things you can do, for example smile, hug someone, cook, clean the house, go to work or have a shower.
3. Learn from people who are more confident
Confidence makes man capable...
Spend time with people who are more confident. Notice what they do and how they do what they do. Observe their speech, their body posture, their breathing, the way they speak and how they communicate. Ask them questions about what makes them feel confident. You will also notice people who may appear confident on the outside may not feel so confident on the inside. So know that everyone is human, including yourself.
4. Adopt the posture, breathing and focus of confidence
Imagine yourself as already confident. Sit how you sit, stand how you stand, breathe how you breathe as if you are already confident. Notice when you are confident where you are breathing from. What is your posture like? Where are you focusing your attention? What are you saying to yourself. Examples include “When I am confident I sit up straight, breathe deep from my belly and look ahead, my focus is on being successful and I say to myself I CAN DO IT, YES I CAN DO IT.” We all have our strategy for confidence and I wonder what your strategy for confidence is?
5. Start the day with a positive affirmation
It may seem a bit out there but I can guarantee it works. For example: “Every day in every way I am becoming more and more confident” “I feel so happy I can’t stop smiling” I tend to say mine in the mirror every morning. I wonder what daily affirmations you would like to make every day?
6. Stop worrying about what others think and start being you
Start working on your GOAL...
All too often in life we limit ourselves because of what others think. For example, the neighbours, work colleagues, parents, partners, as well as friends. There was a time when I limited myself because I was worried about what my friends would think and I did not study and failed one of my exams. I just wanted to be cool and liked and did not pay any attention to going to class. Being cool was not me. I enjoyed studying.
7. Be kind to yourself and others
Always say: I LOVE ME!!
Kindness increases a happy hormone called Oxycontin in our bodies. This hormone is produced when we are in love or do something kind for ourselves or others. Acts of kindness includes smiling, hugging, opening a door, saying thank you or helping someone in need.
8. Let go and learn from the past hurts and disappointments
The past does not have to equal our future and yet there are times when it feels like our past failures and hurts may be controlling our future. Sometimes people feel because they have failed in the past they will fail again in the present and future. The first step to letting go is acknowledging that it happened and it is over now. It is definitely in the past.
To move on from the past ask yourself “What was the lesson from the past event?”, “What was I meant to learn?”, “What would I do differently in the future?” There is a well-known saying which is “There is no failure, only feedback.” And, finally, ask yourself “What would I do if I knew I could never fail?”. A clinically proven technique that is growing in popularity is Emotional Freedom Technique. Professionals, business leaders, as well as celebrities are using the technique to be and feel more confident.
9. Learn from your past successes and apply them to the future
SUCCESS: It's not the Destination, It's a Journey!!
We all have strategies for success and can easily apply these strategies to what we want to achieve in the present and future. Recall a specific event when you were successful. Make a note of the event and write down everything you did that made you successful. Write as if you were writing a recipe that someone else was going to follow. If they followed your step-by-step guide they would also be able to do what you have done. Now ask yourself “How can I apply what I managed to do in the past to be successful in the present and the future.”
10. Be grateful for what you have
Cultivation of gratitude is now known to increase emotional and physical health. When we feel healthy inside and outside we feel more positive and confident. Remember all the people, things and situations you are grateful for. All people in your life you love, the home that you live in, being able to surf the web, watching a movie with friends, being able to breathe or learning new ways to feel more confident. Write down all that you are grateful for. Which brings me to my gratitude list. I am grateful for you, the reader, reading this, for my mother, sister, friends and family.
I firmly believe in one thing, “If you can think about achieving anything, You can do it!”
YOU are the exclusive god gift to this world...
We should not loose our confidence in any crucial situation, “Confidence” is the value that adds essence in our life, that is the value which fires burn desires to fulfill our dreams!! Enjoy what you are!! Feel Free & Happy and follow some steps that would restructure and improve your confidence!! Thanks for the visit.. ENJOY LIFE… 
