“Be your best friend first ?? What kind of caption is this? I am me… Simply me!! Ofcourse I am my best friend…” If you’re thinking something like this, I must suggest you to take a look at yourself again, because I did and found so many thing to correct, probably you find one at least!! In fact, I am writing this due to a great realization and awareness that I had last week. I found that so many natural qualities that I possess, so many hobbies I could have enjoyed are suppressed!! It’s not because I have a bad time or bad life, but surprisingly I found that whole society works like that. The system is made in the way to implement fix set of rules on you and your surroundings.
While observing a common lifestyle of everyone – doesn’t matter rich or poor, you can find one thing in common that after the student life, everybody is just busy with their professional activities with 90% of their time in a day. In this mock race of life, many little joyful moments and many skills or hobbies which are god gifted or say natural in one is suppressed all the time. I found some questions for you – answers of these questions can easily make you realize about the situation of your life. You can easily estimate if you’re being yourself as nature has made you or you’re just following social parameters for so called race of life!! Here we go:
Do you do what you love? :
If I say I do what I love and if I say I love what I do. There’s a huge difference in both the scenario. Unfortunately, most of us loving what they’re doing. I strongly believe that in life, sometimes due to circumstances or due to situations we have to accept some kind of work or job as compulsion but that compulsion should never be permanent. I think life is too short to judge according to society made parameters. One should always do what one loves, doesn’t matter what!! As Will says in “Pursuit of Happiness” – “If you’ve gotta dream, you’ve gotta protect it!!”
According to me, 70% people in this world are doing what they don’t want to do for their lifetime. If you’re among them, what different thing you’re doing with your life? I think at the end, there’s nothing but regret and guild for those who are not following their aspirations and accepting the compulsions of life. Just close your eyes and ask yourself with intense approach – “Do you do what you love?” The rest will be all…
Do you have worthy people surrounded? :
The another most time consuming and fake activity that we do in our life is to be with the people who actually doesn’t mean anything in our life. “Dah! what kind of joke is this? I have wonderful people with me!! I enjoy their company a lot…” Well, if that’s the case, you are one of the luckiest people in this world but take a serious and close look at your people relations chart. In most of the cases, we’re trying to impress the people which can benefit us professionally or socially – and that’s it!! Even the conversation between two are not pure now a days. Either they are cutting some third person in their talk or they’re wasting their time to discussing negative things or greedy ideas and so on…
Now, my question is very simple. Do you find people surrounded you who really love you (apart from family), who really boost you for being your most improved version, who motivate you in your downfall, who guide you through every thick & thins?? A matter of fact is – It’s hard to find friends, relatives and colleagues with this approach almost impossible. I strongly recommend you to find this kind of people in your life. These are real gems of your life. You can share the most precious time and trustworthy life with a friend circle like this.
Don’t waste your time behind fake people just to complete your goals or materialistic requirements. In one sense it doesn’t sound practical – I know that. But if you’ll think seriously, you will find that on initial level you’ll be in trouble but once you’re through with this approach you will be more than happy in your life. Real Friendship, Real Love and Real Attachment can give a great satisfaction of life that no other materialistic achievement can give. Just think about it…
Do you have any hobby? Really? :
From my view point, hobby is a gift given by nature. Everybody has at least one hobby with so intense attachment – where that activity makes that person to forget every hard nukes of the life. After your professional activity, hobby is the only platform where you can have a feeling of creativity of your own. And you feel it more fascinating because that creativity was purely by your will and choice.
Find out what makes you feel refreshed and blissful? What activity or hobby suits your nature? Once you do that, just go for it. Meet more people sharing the same hobby with you and actually you’ll start finding good people surrounded you. Some people believe, following hobbies means spending more and more unproductive time in your life and I strongly feel that spending time behind your favorite activity means improving your productivity by refreshing your mental ability. So what’s your hobby? Find one…
Are you being so logical? :
Do you remember, when you were of 5-6 and when you see a butterfly in garden or backyard – you used to run behind it with lots of enthusiasm and smile. When you were small, watching full moon was a fascinating site for you. You used to enjoy so many little things. What happens today when you see the butterfly? Either you don’t give attention to it or may be you don’t even notice it. Today you don’t even care if it’s full moon or not. I am not saying that even at this age, you should run behind butterfly and catch them from your neighbor’s backyard, but the point is, exposure to excessive knowledge makes us ignore small moments of joy. We actually stop seeing beauty of nature or little time of happiness. Why? Because we have this habit of examine everything with the magnified glass of “Logic”. We know how earth rotates in the space but we don’t know how to live joyful and sensible life on earth. That’s the problem!!
Don’t be excessively logical in everything. It’s okay to enjoy some moment of life as it is, without any logic behind it. Even try to accept people as they are!! Don’t try to evaluate with your measure tape of parameters. Knowledge should be just a tool for your well-being, it should not throw you out of basic human nature of Love, Compassion, Attachment and Happiness in life. So just use your knowledge as and when required and rest of the time, just enjoy your surrounding as it is. Ask yourself – “Are you being excessive Logical all the time??”
With a great hope that these thoughts will help you at least 1% in changing the way you think in life towards the affirmative way, I would like to close this article.
Have a Great Time 🙂
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